That is how it feels when Etienne is spiraling. I really need to be within a couple feet of him because being even being in my presence is often not enough to keep him out of trouble. This is just reality. It's things like walking crossing the room and having him pop out the door and light up the grill. It's crazy how quick he is (not to mention his skill and memory!) and how slow I seem to have become.
This morning we started off the day with about 20 minutes of The Crocodile Hunter (now have requests to be Steve Irwin for Halloween) followed by two rounds of some board games, than working in the garden together. I made the mistake of then starting up the treadmill during a ruckus game of "Scene It". My focus on running, I missed E grabbing the game box over his head and shredding it to pieces. After I stopped this Hulk move too late, I asked him to go get some books to read while he sat alone next to me. I followed him to the bookshelves and overheard him mumbling to himself "Mommy only likes the good kids." Sigh. Ugh. He didn't know I was there to hear him so he wasn't saying it to get a reaction out of me. He probably meant it.
A couple weeks ago I was trying to explain to a newer friend of mine that Etienne still doesn't believe that I love him. That discipline is difficult because I often fear that he doesn't know that I discipline because I love him so much. She argued that he was just "trying to press your buttons." I gave up trying to explain to her because she couldn't hear or understand. Maybe that is true sometimes that he wants to upset me, but not today. Not in this moment. My fear was realized again.
Please, if you want to be my friend or the friend of a parent with a child like Etienne, don't try to convince them that their child knows they are loved, that their child is like every other child at that age or that what's going on is normal. It's not okay to accept that a child doesn't believe they are loved, valued or wanted. Its not okay to settle for mediocre.
|They love that Blake, at 42lbs, can hold Etienne, at 65lbs.|