To be honest, Blake has been a stinker this week. That kid is either really, really good or really, really bad. Luckily, he's usually great. Not so much this week. Being the instigator that he is, Blake had managed to get his brothers naked, screaming and running circles around the dining room table. At one point, I hollered in my toughest voice something about birthing Blake into this world and taking him back out of it. Don't judge. You weren't herding loud, nude boys.
A short while later, as I was lathering lotion on the now clean, naked boys, Ezekiel began to cry. Really big tears rolled down his soft cheeks. Sweet boy said in his deep voice
"Mommy, I don't know if I am supposed to love you or my birth mommy more."Oh my heart. I wrapped him in the biggest mommy hug I could and rocked him. I told him that there is room enough to love us both. That sometimes he may not want to love her at all and that's okay. That sometimes he may not want to love me and that's okay too. He just cried harder and said
"Keep hugging me, Mommy."I reminded my Zeke that his birth mom could not give him clean water or food or a safe place to live. He asked if she was dead and I was honest. I said I didn't know, that only God really knew. I said that it really stinks that we don't know for sure but that we do know for sure that I am his real, forever mama. That God made us family. Then Molly, whom by this time was rubbing Ezekiel's back, said
"Zeke, remember how God loves us all so much? Remember how He doesn't love some people more than others? You can have a different kind of love for both your mamas and it doesn't have to be more or less."She rocks that big sister thing. I realized later that my lame comment about birthing Blake must have stuck in sweet Zeke's head. Ugh. I always knew that this conversation would come up. This is one that I've said over and over to myself, in my head. But saying it aloud to my son as his big body shook with tears wasn't something that I could ever really prepare for. It's the sin of the world that there are orphans. That birth moms can't or won't keep their children. But then there is that thing called grace. Once again, I was reminded how sacred and precious and-holy cow!-huge this life we live is. How blessed I am to be the one to guide their little hearts to Him.
|Molly walked Ezekiel to kindergarten but he would not let her hold his hand. Sniffle, sniffle.|