|Sparrow #2 has lasted all week.|
Tonight it was just Molly, E, Zeke and me. We had a fun evening and I was aware of how sweet each moment was. Coming home, there was some lying and some destruction. I acknowledged his lie, didn't give him opportunity to make it a bigger whopper and as I was talking, it was like I could hear Karyn Purvis or our counselor saying "Don't further talk in the moment, he isn't hearing you," but I couldn't stop myself from reminding him that lying makes the problem way bigger. He turned into this screaming, hollering, kicking mess. I hugged him with my whole body to calm him down. What he did next broke my heart. He squeezed his eyes shut, his hands balled into a fist and his shoulders hunched over. It looked like he is afraid for his life. And I know that although there have been countless times that I have wanted to squeeze him with anger, I haven't ever physically hurt him. But his physical response, it breaks me and it takes me back to the moment I saw him sitting naked on a cold concrete slab. Getting a bucket of water dumped on his head and having some rough hands scrub him with lard. I can't ever erase that image from my head and I share it because I know that many people will live life without witnessing injustice like that. But God burned that glimpse into my son's former life on my heart to give me just a little bit more empathy, a little bit more patience. That little boy has had more wrongs done to him in his life than I can count. His body language reminds me that this is the reason he hurts me. It isn't about me. It isn't about my walls, his classmates or any of our stuff. It's all about a broken hearted little boy that still doesn't believe he is lovable.
I continued to hold him. I prayed aloud, like I have started to do when I don't know what else to do. Than he stuck his thumb in his mouth, closed his eyes and put his hand on my heart. Patting my chest, he felt my necklace and said "There is your sparrow." That is beauty out of ashes.