Saturday, June 11, 2011
Even before we adopted Etienne and Zeke, we hard a lot of comments regarding siblings and adoption. "I just couldn't love them enough as my own children," or "Adopting would really effect our kids that we have." etc. etc. etc. That is true. Adoption has TOTALLY changed Molly and Blake:
-They have empathy. Molly and Blake cry for their brothers when we talk about the orphanage. They are sad by Compassion commercials. Blake offers money (ours!) to the man on the corner.
-They are more patient with every other kid they meet.
-I can not remember the last time I had to tell them to share.
-Molly and Blake initiated, sponsored and filled 4 shoe boxes for Samaritan's Purse (http://www.samaritanspurse.org/)
-They prefer to share their room, their bed, the pillow
-My kids will not say "that's not fair" because they know now what really isn't fair in life. It's easy for us to remind them of the injustices in life.
-Both Molly and Blake believe adoption is the standard. They plan to adopt when they are "grown up."
-Molly says "it's always entertaining around the house" We don't need to make plans, schedule events or spend money to have a full day.
-Blake is the first to say God gave him his best friend "that is also my brother"
Yes, adoption changes a biological kid. Sure, Molly may have had to learn to wash her hair by herself sooner than she would have if it was just her and B. Yes, Blake has to share most every toy. We never have boredom, don't know what it's like to have nothing to do. Don't remember silence. And someday, when Molly and Blake are grown, have have no doubt that their character will be loving, patient, empathetic and totally knowing the depths of God's grace.
What more could a parent want?