tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3551815908066977246.post2597608083634336517..comments2023-05-12T07:43:35.514-05:00Comments on Room4More!!!: Depressed.Room4Morehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07606446025354139664noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3551815908066977246.post-6869628683831898192012-12-06T11:34:14.664-06:002012-12-06T11:34:14.664-06:00Juanita, Holy Awesome! This perspective is right o...Juanita, Holy Awesome! This perspective is right on. Christ paid our debts so we wouldn't we give all we had (which we do, even if it isn't monetary) for another life to live. Room4Morehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07606446025354139664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3551815908066977246.post-2332066062540424042012-12-06T10:36:36.685-06:002012-12-06T10:36:36.685-06:00I was telling my husband about the ugly response y...I was telling my husband about the ugly response you received to your post and he made a good point. Kylie mentioned over and over again about ‘buying the children’—which obviously strikes a nerve for her. Like your experience, our adoption in no way was buying the child—we’re so glad that the Rwandan government did not require ‘donations’. However, and bear with me while I say something apparently controversial, why would it be so horrible if the children were ‘purchased’ *gasp*. We look at what Oskar Schindler did for so many Jews when he used every means possible to rescue them. We look at slavery and how humane it would be to be able to buy a slave only to set him free. We look at the price our Saviour paid to free us from hell. If I didn’t have the food I needed to be healthy, the love I needed to thrive, the touch to remind me I’m alive, a family to belong to, or the option of learning so that I could one day thrive in ‘the real world’, I wouldn’t care if someone used money give me a better life—the life my Saviour would want for one of His precious children.<br />When we take the time to see what these children have to endure and what they need, why is it so wrong to think of giving up a new car, bigger house, or electronic toys in order to use those funds to bring a child into a family who can love him and provide for him. I want to spend my life showing my son that he is worth the years of waiting, worth far more than money or any other material thing, and worth traveling around the world to gather him up in my arms, hold him tight and assure him that he is my son. I would do the same thing if somehow my biological son ended up halfway around the world in a third world country, and I would do it all again for my adopted son.<br />*I hope that I in no way hurt of offended anybody with my words… that is not at all my intention.*<br />Juanitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00793665584389520527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3551815908066977246.post-25449408948481929662012-12-05T19:30:14.708-06:002012-12-05T19:30:14.708-06:00Just now seeing this, so forgive my late response....Just now seeing this, so forgive my late response. But I'm in utter shock. I cannot fathom for a moment how someone could construe adopting two boys from the other side of the world into your family and giving them all the love you have to give as something bad. How someone could see rescuing these children from a place that gave them no love, no affection, barely enough provisions for survival and giving them a warm home with all of those things and so much more as something wrong. How someone could see your heart breaking because all you want is for *your son* to know that he is loved, and feel that's something you deserve?? Unbelievable. Kara, I know you & Ryan never went into this decision wanting any kind of pat on the back for your choices, but I am completely in awe of you. YOU are a true example of God's work, whether you believe that or not, and I am so proud to call you my friend. And your response to Kylie makes that all the more clear. I'm glad you're not letting her words hurt you. I do hope that some way Kylie will be able to see the wonderful person you are... Clearly she doesn't know you in real life! :). Hugs Kara!Staciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02620984697103967967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3551815908066977246.post-60793868428925004032012-12-05T14:52:47.411-06:002012-12-05T14:52:47.411-06:00Thank you, Lesley. And thanks to all my other defe...Thank you, Lesley. And thanks to all my other defenders! I am not taking Kylie's words to heart because I don't write for her and I geniunely feel sad that she has such a chip on her shoulder.<br />I know her comment hurts other adoptive families but I have decided not to remove it for now. I believe in freedom of expression AND I believe that many of my readers will pray for her when they see those ugly words. And that, my friends, is what she needs.Room4Morehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07606446025354139664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3551815908066977246.post-33341726341123377712012-12-04T21:28:29.546-06:002012-12-04T21:28:29.546-06:00Kara, You are such an inspiring woman. You truly e...Kara, You are such an inspiring woman. You truly embody the Christian spirit in words AND actions (Kylie, take note). I would not classify myself as Christian but totally dig your devotion to your faith and your family. If more people (of any/no faith) lived by your example (Kylie, take note) the world would undoubtedly be a better place. Perhaps there are people who do not understand the lifelong gift that you gave these children (all four of them) but please don't be discouraged by ignorance and malice.<br /><br />I started reading your blog in the spring; I laughed and cried at your stories and find myself rereading some of them. Your patience and devotion are incredible. I am not a mother, nor do I know anything about the obstacles and challenges of adoption, but I just know that it will get better for you. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow but at some point E will know how much he means to you and will no longer question your love. You are doing an amazing job, even on the days that you don't feel like you are.<br /><br />I hope that you will continue to blog, through the good times and the bad, and know that you are inspiring people across the globe.<br /><br />Much love,<br />LesleyLesleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17586800732499938669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3551815908066977246.post-64274237512462564402012-12-04T20:09:39.988-06:002012-12-04T20:09:39.988-06:00Kylie, Jesus said my yolk is easy and my burden is...Kylie, Jesus said my yolk is easy and my burden is light- why would he say this? Many of his early followers were brutally killed- doesn't sound light or easy! But the everlasting peace in the heart of a Follower of Christ gives you the ability to weather storms, survive against all odds, and give thanks for the good things in life. Kara's blog was saying just that- she's struggling with her son, but still has peace in her heart. Jesus loves you too, and the peace he brings to a heavy heart is worth all these struggles 1000 times over! I hope If you are having a hard time with something in your life, you will read about the life of Christ and how He wants to help you through your crappy times too. Also, the children from Rwanda were in no way bought. While corruption does sadly exist in some adoption cases, Rwanda only adopted less than 100 kids out to Americans in the last decade. The process went directly through the Government - they took absolutely no money from us for the adoption.it was totally free. We adopted our son from mother Theresa's orphanage There in 2009. There was not a single suspicion of baby buying - since no money changed hands in our independent adoption. The government and catholic sisters truly wanted to see their vuneeable children placed in families in a country with almost no social safety net. Please, if something truly burdens your heart about Kara's struggles let someone pray with you, that you can weather the next storm in your life with peace, purpose, love and forgiveness. Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17293149571934133035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3551815908066977246.post-46735407759397958522012-12-04T19:28:49.769-06:002012-12-04T19:28:49.769-06:00Who is this person?? Kyle, you are vile and have a...Who is this person?? Kyle, you are vile and have absolutely no understanding of what leads a family toward adoption. I feel for you and pray God heals your heartDarbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13078812939082873518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3551815908066977246.post-63634210027964087402012-12-04T19:25:13.811-06:002012-12-04T19:25:13.811-06:00Why the anger? Why attack a person you have never ...Why the anger? Why attack a person you have never met? Why are you so anti? I'd really like to know. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3551815908066977246.post-17891316442509255222012-12-04T19:01:22.571-06:002012-12-04T19:01:22.571-06:00Kyle, clearly, doesn't have birth or adopted c...Kyle, clearly, doesn't have birth or adopted children. :)Laurel Greerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15080842658826345034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3551815908066977246.post-10626986662738307452012-12-04T18:21:35.928-06:002012-12-04T18:21:35.928-06:00Maybe you simply got what you deserved? You decide...Maybe you simply got what you deserved? You decided that purchasing two little boys from a place with a massive corruption was a good idea (because a supernatural being conveyed to you that it was a good idea). You are a smart lady that understood buying a kid from such a place would likely mean said kid had experienced deprivation and neglect and trauma and the scars it can leave can be lifelong.<br /><br />You still bought the kid. You deserve the hell you're in, perhaps? There's a Swedish aphorism that says "you take what you want, and then pay for it, sez God". A neat way of saying actions have consequences. You bought kids, thus inviting trauma into your home. The "price" - perhaps it's divine retribution? The price is being stuck with lil kiddos who have every reason on earth to not trust you.<br /><br />You deserve the rad kid! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com